In all of our relationships, home, church, school, business, or friendships we should always remember two things.
First, we are to be true to our faith. We must never compromise the truth to have a relationship. We owe allegiance first to our God and His inerrant Word above anyone (see Luke 14:26, 27). We must always beware of those who seek to build religious unity on experience or some supposed “need of the day” rather than on doctrine. According to Jude 3, our duty is to, “Contend for the faith once delivered to the saints.” Truth is the foremost concern of a loyal follower of Jesus Christ.
Second, we must try to preserve peace and harmony in our relationships at every cost except at the cost of compromising the truth. Both duties are commanded in God’s Word. Bob Jones, Sr. used to say, “Duties never conflict.”
Sadly, grace and truth are rarely found married together in one man. The perfect combination of such is only found in Jesus Christ who was full of grace and truth. He is our example, and we should endeavor to be like Him.
The key is to know what issues are to be fought for, what issues we can discuss, and what issues we should just be silent on. Someone has said, “Wise is the man who knows what he will die for, what he will fight for, what he will argue over, and what he will be silent on.” In a church, where we have common beliefs, it should be a rare thing to fight over something. One should think through the things he brings up in a business meeting or committee meeting. God hates those who sow discord among the brethren (see Proverbs 6:19). It is silly and wicked to insist on our own way about trivial matters. The same is true in our homes and other relationships.
Let us stand for God’s Word and be willing to lose our jobs, our homes, and our positions for the truth; but let us also endeavor with all of our heart to, “Keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace,” (Ephesians 4:3) and “To follow peace with all men” (Hebrews 12:14).