1. Let him know if his preaching is a help to you. Point out something specific God spoke to you about.
2. Assure him of your prayers for him and his family.
3. Show open support for projects he has prayed over and believes God wants the church to do.
4. Be slow to criticize him. He will make mistakes.
5. Realize that a true under-shepherd would rather die for the sheep than knowingly hurt them. Deal with him from this premise.
6. Pray for God’s hedge of protection around his family.
7. Tell him of the blessings of God in your life. Your faith and victory will strengthen his faith immeasurably.
8. Understand that one of the main ways he stays in touch with you personally is around the services of the church. Many communication issues can be handled after a church service. If you work in some capacity in the church, be sure to touch base with your pastor before you leave.
9. Receive his admonitions with grace. The unique responsibilities of a pastor involve many things in addition to preaching. Your pastor’s work out of the pulpit consists of many unseen efforts in dealing with individual needs and problems.
10. Know that God in His kindness to you has put it in the heart of one of His servants to watch for your soul. Your pastor is one of God’s gifts of grace to you intended to bring your family eternal profit by his preaching and teaching, as well as his shepherding.
“Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.” Hebrews 13:17